It has caused me stress, sleepless nights and headaches. I’m talking about guilt. The guilt of not
being able to be in two places at once.
The guilt of having to make a choice between two things, both being
equally important. The guilt of
disappointing someone or letting someone down.
The guilt of having to say ‘no’. The
guilt of doing something for myself. I have been thinking an awful lot lately of
the affect guilt has had in my life. At times I
have given it extreme power and allowed it to negatively impact what I do and
how I do it.
A few months ago I
read an article that fit people into one of three categories depending on their
personality traits. I have to admit I
don’t remember the whole article or even the other 2 categories, only the one
in which I fit into; the ‘pleasers’. I
have to admit I don’t really care for the label but upon thinking about it, it
fits. I like helping people. I like seeing others happy and content. I am guilty of postponing or neglecting
things for myself in order to please someone else. Unfortunately this can get out of hand. A person can be so immersed in trying to
please others, trying to rid themselves of guilt and the feeling of falling
short in their own eyes, that it can take over and leave a person exhausted and
unhappy.
Is doing something out of a sense of guilt, done with the
right heart? Can it end up being more
damaging than good in the end?
I’m working on this one (adding it to my challenges).
Alana Regier
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