Responcibility

I was teaching a class on responsibility this weekend. Always fun to try to teach something you have been struggling with internally.

Being responsible sucks. The definition of responsibility is having to do something you don’t always want to do. Of course this sucks. Wouldn’t life be so much better if we could just do what we wanted all the time. Party!

And yet we have obligations to behave a certain way – laws. I tell my kids they can do what they want but they have to follow three laws – the laws of the country, the laws of physics and the laws of Ima (mother in Hebrew).

Children, the greatest responsibility ever. It would be so much easier to just run away and hide from them. And yet they are SO GOOD at hide and seek, and they know all my hiding spots!

Anyway, the point of my lesson was that having choices always feels better when you have to do something. Allowing yourself to feel like you are in control and that it is your choice. So really being responsible has to do with perspective. If you make the choice to be responsible then it is easier to do the responsible things that you might otherwise resist.

Most of the time I feel like I am still 9 years old – I have no idea what I am doing, people are the great unknown and the world confounds me. And yet I go on. Trying to be responsible. Pretending to be a grown up.

Sharida  http://sharidactyl.wordpress.com